fixed mindset vs growth mindset

Kosh Wellness

You are what you feed your mind. And what you feed your mind opposed to what you want to feed your mind also varies. There is a vast difference between the two. But when it comes to parenting your child becomes what you behave like, what you act like and what you believe in. Kids ape you.

Once you are a parent, you are constantly under the subconscious lens of your child. And if this holds true which it does, then the onus of how you shape your child’s mindset also totally depends on you.
So, if you as parents were to shape it then you majorly have two options, fixed mindset and growth mindset. Fixed mindset is where you believe in your limitations or your skill set and then adhering to that, however on the other hand growth mindset is about knowing your limitations and trying to better them and knowing your skill set and polishing them as and when required.

To explain further let me use as example, for fixed mindset a person believes that he is bad at math and that’s his ultimate truth and the person will live with it for the rest of his life. On the other hand, the person with a growth mindset will know he is weak at math but will believe that with constant efforts this could perhaps be changed. On getting to know the definition of both it appears that growth mindset is the way to go however there are pros and cons of both.

The positive aspect of a fixed mindset is that you are aware of your limitation and will play your cards accordingly, there won’t be a scope of over confidence and the person will use his potential to the most. But the negative aspect of this mindset is that there won’t be any scope of growth from your existing place. You are stuck up in the zone you already are. This mindset in the long run is not beneficial. However, in the growth mindset you try to change the existing situation in your favour by trying to adapt to the circumstances and being open to change.

As parents however, it is imperative that we strike a balance between these two. While we teach our children not to be over confident and know the limitation, we can also teach them that with proper resources and efforts we can change any situation in our favour. For example, if you plan to teach your child how to swim and your child is stuck up to the fact that he or she is fearful of water, then initially you can accept that and appreciate the fact that they are well aware of what they are fearful of but slowly and gradually you can talk them out of their fear and teach them swimming.

With fixed mindset our children will be able to identify their strengths and weaknesses which is important to define a human being but with growth mindset you can change your weaknesses into your strength and your threat into an opportunity.

So next time you come across such behaviour from your child, identify which mindset is prevalent and try to modify their behaviour that best suits their needs.